Now, this has been done SO many times before, and it’s not really intended as a guide for people who want to know HOW to approach a Pro Domme, although it can be used for this.
I’m writing it more as a guide for people who have contacted Me, but failed for one reason or another.
Possibly this should be titled ‘How to approach Miss Kimberley’ as every Domme will have their own way of doing things.
However, it’s still worth a read as a Newbie, as a lot of the points I raise here are valid and may give you a better understanding of Professional Mistresses and why we do the things we do.
If I’ve sent you this link, please, please read everything here and try contacting Me again. After all. You’re here to learn.
If what I’ve written here causes you offence, please delete My number, block Me on social media and never ever contact Me again.
I guarantee that if this is your reaction, we aren’t going to get along.
I don’t want this to be a negative experience.
Now, while reading this, you may get the impression it’s one long rant.
It’s really not intended to be so. More to the point I want to educate you so we can have the best relationship possible.
In order for us to do that, YOU have to adhere to My rules.
It’s not fair to just turn you away, if you don’t know them, so hopefully you’ll read this and be inspired to contact Me and be the best submissive ever.
Call Me Miss Kimberley.
Ok, let’s get this sorted out straight off the bat. I see it as a huge sign of disrespect if you message me saying ‘Hi Kimberley’ and if you’ve done that, I will have sent this link to you straight away.
If we’re going to do this and enjoy a kinky relationship, you are going to address Me correctly. End of. Let’s start as we mean to go on.
I’m looking for a reason NOT to see you.
Yes, you read that right, I’m looking for a reason NOT to see you.
In fact most Professional Dominatrixes are doing exactly the same. You see, we all take exceptionally good care of ourselves and our safety is our number one priority. YES, even over money.
With this in mind, we’re looking for ANY red flag, any little tell, anything that says that YOU might just be a danger to us.
If we see those red flags, perhaps you might call at a time when I’ve told you specifically not to, You keep asking for a service I don’t provide… anything along those lines then no, I won’t see you.
Does this make Me less of a Professional Domme? Hell no! If you think it does, don’t bother contacting Me.
Don’t get too friendly.
Familiarity breeds contempt? Yes it does.
Now, that’s not to say I won’t be friendly with you, the emphasis really is on the ‘too friendly’
Before our session, when talking on the ‘phone or discussing by email, I’ll keep our discussion at the friendly end of the spectrum. Only when we get into the dungeon and start our session will we become Mistress and sub.
However, where some subs go wrong is thinking that this means they can make ‘jokey’ comments on My social media page or even to Me in person.
Let’s make it clear. We don’t know each other well enough for that.
Be friendly, but remain respectful – That’s the golden rule.
Don’t be pushy.
Possibly the worst crime ever and will see you blocked everywhere I can possibly block you.
‘Being pushy’ is NOT messaging again asking if we can meet for a session if I’ve forgotten to reply (it happens occasionally!) that’s fine. Nor is it messaging to just confirm something or ask a question.
In fact, on the pushy front I’m generally pretty fair and will tell you and be 100% honest if you’re even getting close to pushy.
However, these are some of the things that I deem to be pushy:
Constantly messaging once you’ve booked a session, just for a chat. Booking a session means you have booked Me for one hour of My time. That’s it. If you have legitimate questions you can’t find on My booking page, or if you want to move your appointment etc, these are all acceptable reasons to contact Me.
Other than that, I have a business to run. If you send Me message after message and then a message along the lines of ‘Why are you ignoring me?’ We will have to have a serious conversation.
Honestly, I do understand. You are excited. You want to forge a connection. You want someone to talk to about this wonderful experience, but you probably can’t tell your friends and family.
I do get it, but I can’t be there 24/7 for a one hour session fee. It’s just not economically viable.
Join my Twitter page. Speak to other subs, have fun. I may even chip in with a comment or two myself 🙂
It’s My dungeon:
There is a delicate balance here. I appreciate that you want to have the session of your dreams and I want to give you that. I see Myself as a conduit for you to fulfil your deepest fetish fantasies.
However; never, ever assume to tell Me what we’ll be doing in My dungeon.
More importantly, never, ever try and tell Me what is going to happen with My sub if you’re in for a Forced Bi session or with a female sub, if she’s joining us.
There is only ONE Domme in My dungeon. Please make NO mistake that it is Me.
Ask for anything you want and we will see. Start telling Me and we’re going to have problems.
Well, not problems. You’ll just have your deposit refunded and your session cancelled. Simples.
Approach a Domme as She wants to be approached.
If a Domme goes to the trouble of writing on her page: “Please email Me with your name, experience and what you want from a session” Don’t be an idiot and message her on Twitter and say Hi!
Some Dommes require a tribute, some want you to call. Whatever they say, DO IT!
For Me, I’d like you to read My booking info first: https://miss-kimberley.co.uk/booking-a-session-with-miss-kimberley/
Then email Me: firstname.lastname@example.org tell Me what you’d like from a session, when you’d like to come in etc.
After this, we’ll have a ‘phone conversation and get you booked in.
This is NOT a negative post!
Ok, maybe it seems like it is, but it’s really not. I like to think of Myself as one of the more easy going Dommes around, but I also have to say it is very difficult in the face of some of the messages I receive.
So, just to make it easy, here is the simple guide to approaching Miss Kimberley:
- Call Me Miss Kimberley.
- I’m happy to be friendly, but make sure you remain respectful.
- Don’t make any jokes until we really, really know each other. Even then, probably best not, on My social media accounts.
- Ask anything you want. Seriously anything. If the answer is ‘No’ though, don’t keep asking.
- You don’t have to pay Me, just to message Me. If you just want a chat though, it’s going to cost you.
- There is almost NOTHING that can’t be fixed with ‘I’m sorry’. You may be new to kink or maybe just new to Me. If things go wrong, I will tell you. Apologise and it will be forgotten. If you take umbrage at Me telling you you’re wrong, that is a HUGE red flag.
- There is nothing wrong with being new. You will make mistakes. That’s fine. Learn from them and we’ll have a great time.
- Remember, I’m a human being and treat Me accordingly. Actually, treat Me as a SUPERIOR human being and we’ll be on the right tracks.
Anyway, that’s all I can think of right now. I’ll probably add more to it in time, but for now, that’ll do, pig.
Miss Kimberley xx