And why do I practice it in My dungeon?
Today, I’d like to talk a little bit about S.S.C or better known as ‘Safe, Sane and Consensual’
There is a LOT of misconceptions about going to see a Pro-Domme or Mistress.
Many guys believe that as soon as they step across the threshold they’re going to be slapped repeatedly across the face and then rogered senseless with a strap on until they cry.
I’m not going to lie, for some guys, this is a reality. Yes, it really does happen.
Where the misconception lies is that this is happening TO them without their permission OR prior consent.
It does not. At least, certainly not in my Dungeon!
This sort of scene will only happen with a regular client with whom I have sessioned with many times and we have a deep understanding and bond.
And before any of that will happen, we would have had a good conversation about SSC.
The definition of SSC according to https://whiplrpedia.com/ssc/ is:
” Safe, Sane, Consensual (SSC) pertains to a combination of universal principles used as a basis for a specific type of relationship or setup for BDSM play. Safe means that the prevention of certain health risks when performing a particular act is prioritized. Sane refers to the inclusion of activities performed with both parties exhibiting a sound and sane mind and thought processing. Consensual indicates that both parties consent to participate involved in a BDSM setup. “
Now in a roundabout way, what we’re saying here is: Nothing should happen to you, that you don’t want to happen to you.
Before a session, either by telephone or in person, your Mistress should discuss exactly what you enjoy and what your limits are and she should adhere to them.
Your limits should be regularly pushed and expanded, but it should only be after you’ve discussed where you personally want to go.
And by pushed I mean gently nudged. Bumped up against. Gently caressed.
NOT smashed through.
If you want to come for a session and be tied up and just ever so gently spanked or even tickled with a feather, because right now that’s YOUR limit, that’s absolutely fine.
I’m still really happy to work with you and lead you down the rabbit hole into BDSM and kink fun.
If the Mistress you’re talking to isn’t asking you about your limits and discussing this sort of thing, I’d say probably it’s better to be safe, rather than sorry and find a different Domme.
Because that is definitely NOT S.S.C.
If you do want a Safe, Sane and Consensual Domme, visit Me in My Northampton Dungeon playspace.
If you are interested in attending My dungeon for a session, please see My booking page for information and complete the application form to be considered.